In The Beginning

Since this a new blog, I won’t backtrack through all my dating experiences, but I do want to share my most recent experience, before Ron. I met “Eugene” and we hit it off from the beginning. He was very forthcoming with all of his personal information so I could Google him and do whatever kind of search I wanted to do in order to feel comfortable and secure. I did all of that and so it began. We were texting and calling each other throughout the day starting with a good morning text or phone call. I went to his workplace, we went to dinner, bowling, to the movies. Eugene is very charming, mannerable, polite, soft spoken. I soon began to wonder if he was too good to be true. I started telling my friends about him in order to get feedback and at the same time became cautious, remembering that saying “if something seems too good to be true, it probably isn’t”. I asked questions and paid close attention to the answers. Now, Eugene wasn’t an ax murderer or anything like that but I did put my finger on the reason his other relationships didn’t work out. He is unreliable, not accountable, we would make plans and he would blow me off, he would go days and not call me. This was a problem for me because I really, really did (do) like Eugene and after addressing my concerns with him and him recognizing my concerns things did not change. I decided that since I could not change the way he is it was up to me to compromise which is what I have been trying to do, but it’s not easy. I have “lost that lovin’ feeling and it’s gone, gone, gone”.

Internet Dating – continued

Since this a new blog, I won’t backtrack through all my dating experiences, but I do want to share my most recent experience, before Ron.  I met “Eugene” and we hit it off from the beginning.  He was very forthcoming with all of his personal information so I could Google him and do whatever kind of search I wanted to do in order to feel comfortable and secure. I did all of that and so it began. We were texting and calling each other throughout the day starting with a good morning text or phone call. I went to his workplace, we went to dinner, bowling, to the movies.  Eugene is very charming, manner-able, polite, soft spoken.  I soon began to wonder if he was too good to be true.  I started telling my friends about him in order to get feedback and at the same time became cautious, remembering that saying “if something seems too good to be true, it probably isn’t”.  I asked questions and paid close attention to the answers.  Now, Eugene wasn’t an ax murderer or anything like that but I did put my finger on the reason his other relationships didn’t work out. He is unreliable, not accountable, we would make plans and he would blow me off, he would go days and not call me.  This was a problem for me because I really, really did (do) like Eugene and after addressing my concerns with him and him recognizing my concerns things did not change – for a while.  I decided that since I could not change the way he is it was up to me to compromise which is what I have been trying to do, but it’s not easy. I have “lost that lovin’ feeling” and the feeling is not there anymore.

Internet Dating Anyone?

Internet dating can be a blessing or a curse at the same time.   I have been utilizing internet dating sites off and on for years.  Lately, within the last year I have been more consistent with it.  I have met a few men, none of them keepers.  I happen to be a caregiver for my 95 year old mother and as a result, I am not out and about with any frequency, so my dating life has been relegated to meeting men over the internet.  Two days ago I met a seemingly nice man.  “Ron”.  We corresponded on the site for two days and we were getting to know each other, asking about our dating history and length of time in certain relationships, our success rate with dating on this particular site when all of a sudden out of the blue he asks me, “when was the last time you had sex?”  This is one of the pitfalls of internet dating.  Usually the guy is looking for a sex partner.  That is not my aim or goal.  As I explained to Ron in answer to his question about what type of relationship I was looking for,  I told him I ultimately wanted someone to spend the rest of my life with, but in the meantime, casual dating was my goal.  I was left disappointed with his question, but I did respond by asking him “why had he gone there?”  He hasn’t responded yet and he may not, but that is one of the pitfalls.

Introduction

This is the first of more to come.

My professional experience is that of a Legal Administrative Assistant.  I have a Bachelor of Business Administration Degree and I found myself unemployed.  After some time, I realized that I did not want to go back to work in the corporate world.  I am also single and an experienced “dater” and the thought came to me that I would love to pursue other avenues of interest.

I have read many books and articles and have been engaged in many insightful discussions along the way.  I have experience in internet dating, navaging various internet dating websites, and have actually gone on a few dates.  I have had a few short-term relationships come out of these ventures and a few dating stories that I would like to share and hopefully help someone avoid some dating pitfalls.

I am a woman of a certain age and as such I do not fit the usual profile of an experienced dates.  I have been married twice and have two daughters from whom I welcome input and feedback.

I may be able to give someone a little guidance along the way.  So check back from time to see what’s new.

Bye for now, Linda